“To me, a lady is not frilly, flouncy, flippant, frivolous, and fluff-brained, but she is gentle, she is gracious, she is godly and she is giving. You and I have the gift of femininity…the more womanly we are, the more manly men will be and the more God is glorified. Be women, be only women, be real women in obedience to God.” -Elisabeth Elliot
I love this quote! Being a feminine woman is growing more and more rare these days. I think Elisabeth Elliot hit a home run in this quote of hers. Girls these days are definitely frilly (wanting attention), flippant (disrespectful), frivolous (lack of seriousness, and self-indulgent), and fluff-brained. That is not ladylike. When you think of ladylike, do you think of Grace Kelly or Miley Cyrus? Kate Middleton or Britney Spears? Being a lady is becoming different and odd in this day and age, and to be honest, it’s sad. Where are the innocent girls who love to wear 50s style dresses and wear red lipstick? Now, I’m NOT saying that to be a lady, you have to look like and act like Audrey Hepburn (I wear jeans and that is not wrong in any way), but what I AM saying is that our culture of girls have lost their femininity! We need girls to be more feminine and not only to dress like a lady, but act like one to.
Elisabeth Elliot goes into even more detail here by adding that a lady is godly and giving. To be a lady not only means to be ladylike on the outside, but also on the inside. Your heart has to be ladylike, as well. Be godly (that is, be a woman who believes and follows the Lord), and be a giver. A lady who is a giving person is far more attractive than a lady who always wants things for herself. Next, Elizabeth Elliot says that femininity is a gift! Do you realize, ladies, that being a girl is a gift? It’s amazing to think that God specifically designed YOU to be a girl. Even before conception, He chose you, your looks, your personality, and even your flaws. You are unique!
The quote then goes on to say that if we (women) are more womanly, the men will become more manly. If you look at today’s culture and see how non-feminine the ladies are, you will soon see how non-manly the men are becoming. The men want to please the women, right? So if the women are not feminine, the men will treat the women as tomboys, not REAL women. The point is, men and women were made to attract one another, and so the men need women who will look up to them, and let them open the door for them. Men will only be gentlemen when the woman are feminine. There needs to be a distinction between men and women. That distinction is good and healthy and it is something my generation is lacking.
When we have that down, where women are womanly and men are more manly, then God is glorified. Let me tell you this, plain and straight forward because it is something our country is debating about currently. When God sees genders confused (transgender and homosexual marriages), He is NOT pleased and is NOT being glorified. God is only glorified when His plan, which is a marriage between one man and one woman, is enforced and obeyed. God is glorified when women are feminine and men are manly.
Lastly, Elisabeth Elliot asks you women to simply be women, only women, and be authentic women of God. Women are unique beings made by God, so if you are a woman, act like one, talk like one, dress like one, and be one. And most importantly be an authentic woman of God.